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Limiting Beliefs need Psych-K

Yesterday, I talked about cleaning out the cobwebs that keep me from moving forward.  Those “cobwebs” are actually limiting beliefs that are running my life at the unconscious level, and no matter how hard I may work at something, I may not be achieving my goal because I am wired to believe that I can’t.  This belief  formed over time and it is through the process of becoming aware of limiting beliefs that we can change our path.

Psych-K is a technique used to clear unconscious limiting beliefs and replace them with new ones that actually support our highest good.  Using muscle testing and whole brain body posture, connecting both sides of the brain, a new belief can be programmed in, helping to support a person in this current state of life.

For example, today my Psych-K work involved the statement, “When I trust the God within, anything is possible.”  Through muscle testing, I was weak when I said this statement, which means at the unconscious or habitual thinking level, I didn’t believe it was true.  Imagine trying to write a book, or find a job, when I didn’t believe that anything was possible.  After doing the psych-k techniques, I can now shout this belief from a mountaintop and know that unconsciously, this is true for me.   I am excited to see how it will play out in my life.

I have used psych-k to get rid of physical symptoms, stress, etc.   I have been using the techniques for many years and I can say that it is one of the best tools in my arsenal for keeping myself healthy.

What  “cobwebs” do you need to clean out?  That’s a problem.  Sometimes we don’t even know what is running our habits.  Through psych-k,  you can discover and change them.  Call me if you want to experience the freeing power of Psych-K.

Check out this video to learn more about psych-k.

It’s Never Too Late to Start Again

It has been a challenging few weeks for me, both writing and personally.  I am in that dead of winter space where I know things are happening, they just aren’t visible.  I am in the editing phase of my book and it gets quite tedious moving forward and backward through all the pages, looking for just the right spot to place a bit of the back history, the part of the story that leads up to the event of the book.  I want to weave it into the story so that I don’t have to bore the readers with a whole chapter of it.

At the same time, I am looking for a part time job to bring some income in while I am writing.  It is a difficult place to be, especially when I get so stuck  in not knowing what to do and I feel like no one has ever been as stuck as me.  (Pity Party!)  My emotions have gotten the best of me and have begun to present as physical symptoms, adding to my stuck-ness.   I know I have work to do.

So today I am starting over on my goals and new habits.  I think it is a great day to start again, because I have 21 days left in the month of February, just enough days to create a new habit to replace an old one.

The habit I so struggle to keep going is a morning routine.  I am good for a week, alternating between yoga and writing and adding quiet prayer time.  Then there is a snow day at my daughters’ school, and the household routine is interrupted.  Sometimes I think that taking all that time for me in the morning is counter productive to getting more important things done.  This can’t be farther from the truth.   I know from experience that when I start my day with quiet meditation of some kind, I am much more centered and productive as I move through my day.

Another piece of my life that needs consistency is exercise.  I am consistent about three days a week, but I would like to increase that to everyday because I feel so much better.   I have friends who are blogging everyday, working out everyday and seem to be getting their life together, and that just makes me feel like I am behind the curve.  No matter.  Today is a great day to start again.  As my friend Lisa Schultz says, we must take baby steps for success.

I am done beating myself up over where I think I should be, because the truth is I am doing the best I can.  However, with some extra love and encouragement, I think I can do better.  I am clearing out the cobwebs, resetting my intentions (or maybe just setting them!) and moving forward like today is the first day on my way to success.

I have a new resource that I suggest you try along with me. Darren Hardy, editor of Success Magazine, recently wrote a book called The Compound Effect. On his website, he has a tab for free resources.  I have downloaded all of them and am filling them in again, just like it was the beginning of the year.  The one I am most attracted to is the weekly rhythm register.  I am going to use this to track the activities of my morning routine so I can be accountable to myself, and to you my readers.  Play along with me.  Even if you got off on the right foot in January, it is always good to be aware of where you spend your time.   For any of you who haven’t quite gotten into your groove for the year, this is an invitation to join me.  Remember, it is never too late to start again!  What would you like to restart in your life?

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You are my Inspiration!

When was the last time you tried something new?  When did you last step out of your comfort zone and learn a new skill?  Did you get up at 3:30 in the morning to do it?  I mean who really makes high school kids get up that early?

My daughter decided to go out for her school’s swim team because it is a no cut sport.  She knew she would be on the C team, knew that she could stay in shape for soccer, and hoped that she could swim with her friends.

During the four days of time trials, she learned that her best stroke is the breast stroke. I should say it is the only stroke she knows well enough to swim the whole length of the pool.  When she attempted all the other strokes, she had the captains of the team swimming beside her, encouraging her to keep going.  I can pretty much say that out of all the girls on the team, my daughter falls dead last.  But what she lacks in talent, she makes up for in spirit and determination.  She is not a quitter, and is looking forward to swimming at 5:30 two mornings a week just to improve her skills. She really wants to learn how to float!

My daughter inspires me.  She reminds me that even when life is challenging, you don’t give up and walk away just because something is hard. She teaches me that when you hang in there, you can learn what you need to know and become successful.  Success for her this season is to learn something new and to stick with a new sport.  It is not about winning.  Yet she is a winner in my mind.

As I work at marketing my book, I know that I am treading water in new territory, and I only have to think of my daughter and know that the skills I need to learn will come to me in time. My journey isn’t about how fast I can get to the finish line, only that I eventually do reach my goal.

I am so grateful to have a teacher like my daughter in my life.  She inspires me with her courage and determination.  She inspires me with her positive outlook on life and her willingness to look silly as she improves her skills.  Plus, she is in line to receive the most improved award at the end of the season.  Isn’t that worth working for?

So I ask you again, when was the last time you stepped out of your comfort zone?  What can you learn from my daughter and apply to your own life?

My sweet girl, thank you for helping me to see my own challenges in a different light. I love you!

Begin a Gratitude Journal

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What are you grateful today?
Sometimes just changing our focus from what we feel is lacking in our lives to what we actually have been blessed with can relieve stress.

In this economy, who doesn’t worry about money?  Instead of wishing and wondering where more money will come from, why not feel grateful for all that you have?
Let me start the list for you:

A place to lay your head at night
A method of transportation
Food to keep you healthy
The ability to walk and exercise
Nature and new flowers peaking their heads out of the earth!
Family and friends who love you.
The ability to laugh

See!  It isn’t hard to think about all the gifts that are already present in our lives.  This month, find a notebook you can use and call it your “Gratitude Journal.”  Before you go to bed each night, think of three things you are grateful for and write them down.
When you spend time in the emotions of gratefulness, joy and love, more good things will come to you, including money!

10 Ways to Reduce Stress

I am in the process of looking through old newsletters and finding great information that never made its way to my website.  Here is a great way to help you reduce some of the stress you may be feeling.  Even if you do one of these things, it will bring you back to the present moment, where, if you spend time here, you learn there is no stress.

1)      Write a gratitude journal.

Studies have shown that being grateful for who you are and what you have builds the immune system, attracts more positive energy into your life, and makes you a happier person.  Write down three things you are grateful for everyday and see how the spirit of gratitude can increase your abundance and reduce your stress.

2)      Replace negative self talk.

The popular plastic bracelets can be used to remind yourself of your own negativity.  Whenever you hear a negative statement come out of your mouth, move a plastic bracelet from one wrist to the other so that you become aware of how often you use those statements.  Then replace the statement with something positive.  Change “I will never get everything done” to “I have the time to complete what is important.”

3)      Make a list every evening of your tasks for the next day.

When we plan and know what is ahead of us on a given day, we are more ready to jump into activity.  Do the most difficult task first when you are fresh. Be careful though, not to miss important appointments just because something is urgent.  Scheduling a self-care activity in the middle of a busy day can give you the focus and energy you need to complete your tasks.  What is your self-care activity for the day?  A walk? Breathing?  Eating right?  Put it in your day timer right now!

4)      Spend time with the people who energize you.

Do you know someone who drains your energy every time you are with them?

Is there someone in your life who gives you energy and joy?  Which person would you rather spend time with?  If you work with negative people, make sure to put some distance between you and a negative situation on a regular basis.  Walk around the block, take deep breaths and count to ten, focus on those you love.  Make sure you are connected with a group of people who share your interests.  Studies show that people who are connected in a community have better health than those who are isolated.

5)      Practice whole brain posture:  Sitting in whole brain posture helps you to reduce your stress by connecting both sides of the brain.  Sitting with feet and hands crossed allows the right and left brain to talk to each other.  Try some deep breathing with a positive affirmation.

I am worthy of love and attention

I live in peace and joy.

I do my best and my best is good enough.

I live abundantly.

I am enough.

God is in me, I am in God.

6)      Get extra sleep.

Getting 8 hours of sleep a night not only helps your hormones take care of your body and help you release toxins, you will be building your immune system to fight germs.  If you didn’t get the sleep you need at night, consider taking a cat nap.  Lie down on a flat surface and elevate your legs and bend your knees at a ninety degree angle.  Resting in this position for 20 minutes is equivalent to getting four hours of sleep.

7)      Fuel up with food instead of filling up.

Do you need mental clarity?  Energy?  Eat foods that are appropriate for what your body needs, rather than just filling up.  Fruits, vegetables, nuts, proteins, and multi grain breads are all a part of a balanced diet.  Can you add an extra piece of fruit or a vegetable today?  Remember that even an extra teaspoon of sugar lowers your immunity for five hours. (A soda or even a fruit juice has up to 16 teaspoons!) When you eat refined and processed foods, you will be tired two hours later and need to fill up again.  Nourishing your body means becoming aware of how you treat yourself.  You are worthy of love, so feed your body with love.

8)       Get moving.

Did you know that even 10 minutes of walking the stairs or around the block lowers the cortisol (stress hormone) in your bloodstream? You don’t need a solid hour of exercise to see benefits.  Several spurts a day to get your heart rate up will be a great benefit to your health.  Try starting the day with yoga.  It will get your body moving and help you center for the day.  There are many free online resources to get you started.

9)      Release the past

Letting go of the past is not an easy process yet it can have profound effects on your health.  Start to release past hurts by using a letter writing technique.  Choose someone whom you are still carrying ill feelings toward, and write them a letter.  This letter is never meant to be sent to the recipient, it is only used to help you let go of the stress you feel.  Write down everything you wish you could say in person.  Fill the letter with emotion, letting all your feelings pour into the writing.  Don’t stop until there is nothing left to say.  It is good to ask the universe to surround you and the other person with healing white light. You may want to burn the letter when you are finished, to release your feelings.   This could be the first step in regaining the energy you are putting into the past.  I know that this is a multi step process but it is good to begin.   When we release the past, we have more energy to live in the present.

10)  Take time to be well, or you will be forced to take time to be sick!

Do you notice how many of these activities are self-centered, in a good way?    Taking time for you by eating right, exercising, releasing emotional baggage, and surrounding yourself with people who love you makes you a happier, healthier person.  Stop saying you don’t have time to do any of these things.  That means you feel like you aren’t worth your time and effort. Taking time for you will reduce your stress and increase your well being. You are worthy of your own time and attention!

Have You Outgrown Your Space?

I was sitting with my friend Charmaine today as we were planning an upcoming class we are going to do together, and out of the blue she said, “I just have to ask you, have you outgrown your space?”

At first I thought she meant have I outgrown my physical space where I do my writing and healing work, and then slowly the words took on a different meaning.

I have been doing a lot of soul searching lately, wondering what direction my life is going next and what I want it to look like.   A lot of my journaling has been around who I am now and who I want to be in the near future.   In light of those discussions I am having with myself, I see how I have outgrown the space in my mind of who I am right now at this time.  I have been keeping myself, my talents and the best of me in a box, and I have outgrown the container that I built to keep me there.   I have outgrown the limiting beliefs that there is only a certain way to make a living, that writers always starve and I am not talented enough to fit any job description I would find in the want ads.   I am expanding my view of who I am in the world.  Let me give you a glimpse.

“Jan Haas is a well-known published author and speaker who devotes time to writing every day, teaches journaling and guided meditation classes and retreats, and loves to speak to women about creating balance in their lives.  Her topics include but are not limited to Overcoming the Biggest Obstacle in Your life-You!,  Harnessing the Power of the Present Moment. and Fun is Necessary for Success.

Wow!  All of those titles just popped into my head.  Now comes the next step:  Believing that it is true!  My mind doesn’t know the difference between what is real and what I make up in my head, so instead of making up stories like, “I don’t have a prosperous life,” I would much rather make up the idea that I am a successful writer and speaker.  Eric Butterworth, in his book Spiritual Economics, says that “Prosperity comes from the latin root which literally translates: “According to hope’ or ‘to go forward hopefully.’ ”

Now I move forward hopefully into the future, with this new vision of myself clearly within focus.

God Lives Outside Our Box! (Inside too)

“God is bigger than the limitations of my sight.”

This quote came from a Sunday homily at church.  I had to find a pen and scribble it down because it is so good and full of insight.  “God is bigger than the limitations of my sight.”  I have often heard the saying that we look at the world through human eyes and not with the eyes of God.  So as humans, it really is a stretch to see the world from the eyes of unconditional love.

Sometimes when I write,  I look at my words individually, not strung together to make a beautiful melody on paper.   We do that with people too.  We get stuck on an action that we witnessed or were the recipient of and we judge the whole person in that one moment.   But the reality is we are all much bigger and better than we are in any single moment of our lives.   The person who cut us off in traffic this morning could have just learned of an illness in the family.   The family member who doesn’t hold his/her tongue could be expressing pent up emotions about a physical limitation he/she is living with.    God’s love is in each of us, and God chooses to show up in the world in ways we don’t always see or understand.  Yet just because I don’t see God doesn’t mean that God isn’t present.

Another prayer I distinctly heard was “let me be the change in the world in this moment I am living in.”  It is a lot to hope for to pray for peace in the world.  But if I choose to be present to the moment, and each person in my neighborhood does too, we can begin to see what needs to be done in this present moment, and that change will allow us to look at changing another moment in time, and so on.  Continuing to live in the present, not focused on the future or the past  is the only way we can begin to see God in our presence.  And I will continue my journey towards a more unconditional love, knowing that however hard I try, I will never see the world as beautiful as God does, because my human limitations cannot grasp and cannot see with the eyes of God.  We glimpse, but just like the passing sunset, the moment is gone.  Yet we continue on, looking for evidence of God’s touch on humanity.

Speaking Your Truth Book

I am so grateful to be a part of the Speaking Your Truth book, that will be released August 25.

To learn more about the book, visit Speaking Your Truth

So what does it mean to Speak Your Truth?

It means embracing the person you are and letting the world know that who you are is good enough.

It means finding your voice and telling others your story and allowing the telling to bring healing to your life.

It means standing up for yourself and giving yourself permission to grief and then let go of a not so perfect past.

It means gathering the strength within you to take the next step into a brighter future.

This book compiles the stories of 49 women who have faced obstacles, overcome adversity, embraced their own truth, and are now walking a path of  healing and wholeness.  Imagine how reading their stories might inspire you to find your own truth and begin to live it.   Andrea Constantine and Lisa Schultz have partnered together on this project and there are plans for future books.  Maybe your story will be in the next edition!

Be sure to visit the website, and on August 25th, please support all of us by going to Amazon.com and purchasing the book.  The life you change won’t just be your own.


Guest Writer: Andrea Constantine

Rejection – A Way of Getting Closer to What You Want

I’ve heard no, been turned down, and rejected in some way or another in more times than I could even begin to count. Some days those no’s penetrate deep into my core.  Other days they roll off of my back and I never give them a second thought. Regardless of where they land, rejection is one of the biggest concerns entrepreneur’s face.

I’ve recently invested in some personal development courses to help improve my own business and I’ve been faced with dealing with rejection on a much deeper level. Being pushed out of my comfort zone to offer more of myself and my services, I bumped up against the core fear of not being loved.

When I explained to a dear friend and coach, Tamara Younker, that I don’t want to be pushy she asked what underlying belief was creating that feeling. I immediately knew it was that I wanted to be liked. So much so, that I actually pride myself on being a well-liked person. She then called me out on this limiting belief and we both saw that behind all of it was the deep fear of rejection. As the incredible coach that she is, she reminded me that I’m all that I need, I don’t need any of the things that I seek outside of myself.  Those words stuck with me and have been vibrating around for weeks.

This past weekend as I embraced the wonderful energy of New York City and all of its excitement I was intrigued by one dominant behavior within so many of the people.  From the street vendors, to the pedicabs, to China town, to Little Italy – all of the individuals were vying for the spending dollars of the tourists and the millions of people who travel through the city.  And although they are told “no” more times than they could count in an hour, they aren’t willing to give up.

In Little Italy each restaurant had a server outside reaching out to the passerby’s to persuade them to come and eat in their restaurant, asking them to check out the menu, and have a seat.  In China Town the workers negotiated the best price and sought out to help you purchase their goods. On the street, vendors lined up asking you to check out their products and in the Central Park pedicabs and horse carriages called out to you to take advantage of their service.

Amazed at the amount of energy it took for each sale and transaction I began to realize that these people face rejection so many times a day and yet they continue to keep offering what they do.  I thought about how many times the fears came up for me every time someone said no, making me want to retreat or even give up or give in. Realizing that these individuals were so passionate about what they were doing or making a living that “no” was just another object in their way, quickly forgotten about as the next potential client walked by.

One man in Little Italy even got upset when someone turned down his offer to hold a table for his large group and yelled out “If you don’t want me, I don’t want you.” And I thought – brilliant! While it may have seemed rude at first, there’s no point in chasing after someone who really has no interest in working with you. The no’s get you closer to those who really do need and want what you have and regardless of how many people don’t need or want what you have, there are always those who do.

And synchronistical, there are always just enough people who need and want what you have when you are willing to go out and look for them. There are always plenty of customers when you are willing to let go of the no’s in search for the yes’s.

Don’t let “no” be a sign of rejection or that you aren’t good enough, instead let it take you a step closer to getting exactly what you want.

Andrea M. Costantine is the Service & Soulful Marketing Strategist, helping conscious business owners find easy and authentic ways to market their services utilized whole person and spiritual marketing strategies. She’s passionate about freedom, self-expression, and inspiring human potential. You can find out more about Andrea and her work at www.andreacostantine.com

Have you Cleaned your File Cabinet?

In a spurt of creativity this week, I decided to paint my work space.  This room in my house also doubled as a play room for my girls when they were little and there is a lot of kid stuff left in the closet.  So everything has come out of the room, and now I am deciding what will go back.

One of the biggest tasks I have is to clean out my file cabinet.  Not only is there a two drawer file in the room itself, but we also have a four drawer in the back storage room.  My thought is to use the back storage room for my files which allows me to take a piece of furniture out of my space for better energy flow.   Do you know how much stuff gets shoved into a file cabinet over a 14 year span?  That is how long we have been in this house.  Last night, I loaded up at least 4 paper grocery sacks to take to the recycle bin. For example,  I still had a  lot of warranties on items that have long been gone, old medical plan books, articles that I wanted to read but have never seen the outside of the file I stashed them in years ago.

This morning as I was laying in bed, I thought about the cleaning of the files, and I wished that I could clean out the files in my head so easily.  Unlike the articles I put away with the best intentions that were forgotten, I have files in my head that register at inconvenient times, carving lines into my self confidence and best laid plans for success.  These little files have been in my file cabinet since I was a child.  Unfortunately, they aren’t paper files easy to trash, just very powerful thought files that I somehow created because I thought they were true.  And even though they aren’t true, files like “you’re not good enough” still show up, and I feel like a little child, being chastised by a mean parent.

One of the best ways I have found to help change these strong neuro pathways is to respond immediately with a positive statement.  I will often tell myself that “I am a Child of Divine Light, and I am capable of all good things.”  I have also used Byron Katie’s The Work.  When I ask myself if this is an absolute truth, the answer is always no.  And I also use Psych-K, a a technique that works to change unconscious negative beliefs into positive ones.   So even though my head files take a lot more work than unloading papers into a recycle bin, I have tools to help me release and let go of limiting beliefs.  Like anything else, I just have to become aware and decide that I will no longer store years worth of trash in the files of my brain.  I have to consciously take the time to create better energy flow in my thoughts, and that makes for a much better day!

What about you?  Do you have any limiting beliefs you need to work on?